A Newsletter Valuing Change

May/June, 1999

Tips for Change

Let go of:

• Unreasonable expectations.
• Perfectionism.
• Things you can't control.
• What other people think.
• Procrastination.

Planning

Take time to plan. Having a plan helps you be proactive rather than reactive. Include your dreams. Include time for delays as well as the time to modify your plan. Have your plan address accomplishing tasks that are not automatic. Keep in mind you control your plan it does not control you.

What Really Works

Learn from what works and what does not by examining your actions and their results. For example compare your actual action with something you said you would do. Did you do what you said you would do? Did you not do it at all? Did you accomplish some version? What worked? What caused you to do what you actually did? Use the knowledge of what works and what does not to help you succeed at what you really want.

Visualize Confidence

Coaching for Performance, by John Whitmore is an outstanding, easy to read book that explains the use of coaching skills in the corporate context. Actual coaching examples makes understanding the components of coaching clear.

The most powerful skill described is opened ended, non-judgmental questions used to create awareness and choice. A key motivational concept is that choice and responsibility occur through increased self-awareness of a situation or problem.

Use of Whitmore's coaching skills often results in a fundamental transformation of one's management and communication styles that leads to further success.

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Napoleon Hill: "Don't wait. The time will never be just right"
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Networking Thoughts

• Be curious about the people you meet.
• Let them do the talking.
• Ask open-ended questions.
• Know what you want to say in advance.
• Don't worry about how you look or act.
• Be yourself.
• Give it time. Relationships take time to build trust and referrals.